Let me start..

by saying I absolutely adore my husband. I love this man more than I ever thought I could love someone. He has the most amazing moments - Of course, like anyone, he has his not so amazing moments that I just want to strangle him. My main gripe is this - If your wife is in the process of miscarrying or being told they think she's going to miscarry, do NOT EVER say "If this one doesn't work out, we can try again." And when she responds with "Are you sure? You're not just saying this? Promise me." Again, DO NOT reply to her (in her emotional state - and because she's a woman she will remember this til the day she dies) with "Of course. " I say this because a month or so down the road - after she's lost the baby - when you start saying "Are you sure you want more kids? I'm done having kids", SHE WILL REMEMBER YOUR PROMISE. And it will break her heart to hear you say those things because she will still harbor in her heart a desire and a hope that there is at least one more baby out there waiting to come to your family. Sigh.

I know this may not make a lot of sense - but it's been irking me for quite some time. Mainly, don't make such an important promise if you're not going to keep it.